"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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redskinsfan92

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What happened to @ShePays ? Is it temporary? Was it that thread I decided to stay away from?
I like some of his posts.

I honestly don't know who a good pick for a mod would be. There are few good choices I think. Won't list any names. I know I'm not fit to be a mod myself. I like debating controversial topics too much.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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His politics did not align with the views of the other mods. This site is very right wing.
Espi self proclaimed that he did not work well with others and in general was very sociopathic. He was a bad moderator.

I would do it but I just don't have the time to do it right.

I vote @TyTe`EyEz , would vouch for. I'm guessing by the age of this thread, the decision has already been made. Oh well.
 
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Espi self proclaimed that he did not work well with others and in general was very sociopathic. He was a bad moderator.

I would do it but I just don't have the time to do it right.

I vote @TyTe`EyEz , would vouch for. I'm guessing by the age of this thread, the decision has already been made. Oh well.
I appreciate the vote of confidence, but I didn't apply.

I mentioned earlier in the thread that I like to clown around occasionally, and I reckon a mod shouldn't do that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Maybe it's too late already but for me @samspade would be the perfect moderator.
knowledgable, level-headed, mature approach, sense of humor and most importantly doesn't get into petty fights.
 
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Maybe it's too late already but for me @samspade would be the perfect moderator.
knowledgable, level-headed, mature approach, sense of humor and most importantly doesn't get into petty fights.
The mods have already been chosen, but yeah, he would have made a good one
 

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Thanks man, I appreciate it. I don't think I have the bandwidth for it, or I'd have considered applying.
It’s the same bandwidth as regular forum posting. I’m on my iPhone exclusively. I think you should rethink that if a future opportunity arises…
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"criticizing other mods is unacceptable as it creates a hostile environment"

Codified groupthink...and the essence of blue pill mentality.
I'm a big proponent of criticizing other people's beliefs, but I can also see why you wouldn't want moderators doing it.

I think mods know this when they sign up; that they're basically relinquishing their guns, so to speak.

I've always thought it kind of sad when a quality poster becomes a moderator. Sure, they can still post about women and game, but that stuff gets boring after a while.

The further you get into female thinking and the reality of the sexual marketplace, the less interesting it all is.

Don't get me wrong here, getting laid is great! But it all gets so repetitive after a while. You end up dealing with the same problems you did before. Such is the dynamic between men and women, such it shall continue to be.

These days I'd much rather hear a poster's perspective on everything else. And everything else is where the most beneficial life advice resides.

Personally, I already know how to be completely satisfied in romantic life: You must enjoy frivolous spending, needless emotional outbursts and listening to why you should spend more time doing what she wants to do.
 

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Moderating really boils down to one thing: Limiting petty bickering. Petty bickering tends to turn any forum into a trash heap of kindergarten-level slap fights. Very few men possess the self-control to have a limited exchange of disagreement and then move on. These petty fights derail the original intent of threads and seriously degrade the quality of the site.

Drama queens, whether in the general membership or within the group of mods, have two glaring destructive personality traits. The first is ambient, uncontrollable anger. The second is lack of self-control. It’s the ego being in control of the man, when it should be the other way around.

Childishness and selfishness are the inevitable by-products of an ego that is not controlled, and the manifestation is usually that threads deteriorate from useful discussion into petty playground fights. This is not acceptable in a forum devoted to self-improvement and teaching men to handle life effectively.

Of course these boys are the minority, but they make the most noise. Most of the men here are decent, respectable and respectful guys who are here to learn and to teach and help make this site a valuable resource.
 

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I'm a big proponent of criticizing other people's beliefs, but I can also see why you wouldn't want moderators doing it.

I think mods know this when they sign up; that they're basically relinquishing their guns, so to speak.
Criticizing ideas and beliefs is not something mods generally take action against. The problem arises when such disagreements become personal and a member criticizes the other person directly, rather than just their ideas and beliefs. It makes an initially rational discussion turn into an emotional one.

I can express my opinions and I can disagree with the other mods and members, but I do so respectfully. Mods don't get fired and members don't get banned for just their opinion, poor expression of those opinions do.

Every time someone gets banned we have someone saying it was because of their opinions, that mods disagree with what they think. This is untrue, it's all about how those opinions are expressed towards other members and whether it's the idea or the person being criticized.
 
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Criticizing ideas and beliefs is not something mods generally take action against. The problem arises when such disagreements become personal and a member criticizes the other person directly, rather than just their ideas and beliefs. It makes an initially rational discussion turn into an emotional one.

I can express my opinions and I can disagree with the other mods and members, but I do so respectfully. Mods don't get fired and members don't get banned for just their opinion, poor expression of those opinions do.

Every time someone gets banned we have someone saying it was because of their opinions, that mods disagree with what they think. This is untrue, it's all about how those opinions are expressed towards other members and whether it's the idea or the person being criticized.
But some of my favorite posters only became that after they challenged me directly.

They called me out personally, and showed a set of nuts. I respect that more than any generic game advice.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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