I have a really big issue. I CANT GET LAID!! God its been years. And its not getting any better. Any girl I'm with sooner or later sees how badly I'm craving for sex. Sometimes it seems like an impossible goal in my life. I see all these HB around me and feel powerless to do anything about it. So wtf is going on? I've been shaping my life for years and now I actually have an identity and stable in most areas in my life. Girls do look at me differently and I sense the attraction. BUT NO LAYS... People say just fck a few fat chicks, but I really dont want to get in bed with a beast. So whats going on? Am I putting too much value on sex or is a lack of confidence is whats holding me back? Any insights help, thanks guys!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Yo dood
From the tone of your post, it does seem that you might be getting a bit desperate! And if women smell desperation on you, they'll run for the hills or worse, take advantage of you and your time. I know you want sex (everyone does, heh), but I think the key here is to enjoy every part of the interaction - the sex will come as long as you continue to escalate and are detached from the result of the interaction (a trait I'm still trying to develop in myself).
Others will probably chime in to give more tips, but here's a video I watched just earlier today from rsdjulien that might be of interest to you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wGREQFiw0NU
From the tone of your post, it does seem that you might be getting a bit desperate! And if women smell desperation on you, they'll run for the hills or worse, take advantage of you and your time. I know you want sex (everyone does, heh), but I think the key here is to enjoy every part of the interaction - the sex will come as long as you continue to escalate and are detached from the result of the interaction (a trait I'm still trying to develop in myself).
Others will probably chime in to give more tips, but here's a video I watched just earlier today from rsdjulien that might be of interest to you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wGREQFiw0NU
Cerwin Vega
Master Don Juan
It worked = you got laid?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.