"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need help with this really "deep" girl

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Hello all

I need some of your valuable knowledge!

I've been dating this girl, and it has been great, but I'm generally a quiet kinda guy and and have realized that this girl is really emotionally deep and craves those deep and meaningful conversations. The question I have is how I can initiate more of these "deep" conversations about life, love, whateva. I'm finding this really difficult because I've met no-one like her, so this is fairly foreign to me. She really wants to get to know me deeply and I know I have the potential to be really emotionally deep, but I don't know how to unlock it within myself.
Has anybody overcome something like this before? Or does anyone have any ideas?

Thanks so much

Regards,
Jim
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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man she scares me...

careful that she might get too clingy then she might become the i'll commit sucide if you leave me type of girl.. just watch yourself
 
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oh nah it isn't like that.
I feel she might leave me if I don't become more emotionally deep...
 
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well when u say deep.. explain yourself in your own words when u discribe deep becuase its not clear on what ur tryin to say... by deep u mean.. more of ur personal? or deep as in more emotional.. like bf gf thing?
 
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Sorry, I guess its kinda hard to explain!

I think I mean like deep conversations about personal and emotional like a bf gf thing.
Again, I'm sorry if that makes no sense... i'll be happy to clarify anything!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jimmeh said:
Sorry, I guess its kinda hard to explain!

I think I mean like deep conversations about personal and emotional like a bf gf thing.
Again, I'm sorry if that makes no sense... i'll be happy to clarify anything!
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maybe she wants u to make the move.. shes interested in you

have u tried to move in? kiss? even f close?
girls dont talk mushy things for no reason u know
 
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oh don't worry we have been intimate! we are together officially...
its just a matter of maintaining the relationship by providing what she needs, which is stimulating conversation.
 
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What is the meaning of life?
What happens when we die?
If God exists, why does he let bad things happen to good people?
Is a person's personality defined most by their genes (nature) or their environment (nurture)?
Do we have souls?
If God knows everything, can he enjoy a whodunnit?
If God can't enjoy a whodunnit, is he all powerful?
Does George Bush want a Holy War?
Is there life in outer space?
Is there life in Belgium?
If a tree falls in the forest and no ones there to hear it, does it make a sound?
Are there, as quantum physics suggests, alternate universes where the Nazis won the war and Paris Hilton is president?
etc
 
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Find me a gal like that. Not enough of 'em around.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i agree with you guys, they are definitely rare...
i feel terribly lucky.
i just hope i can keep her!
 
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Jimmeh said:
cant say i do
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Ok. Try the link at the bottom of my signature. And listen to a few of the shows in the "recordings" section.

Give it a shot. I reccomend listening to at least 3 or 4 of his shows before judging the guy.
 
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