"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Need help with girl from the past

Dman101

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I met a girl on facebook 2 years ago and she drove an hour to meet me and we went to the movies. On the date she said I look like i dont party much. 4 months later, I saw her again, went to her dorm room to watch a movie. I held her and this time she said i look like a mommas boy. At the end of the night, I rubbed her stomach awkardly, and she said i was too touchy, so I left thinking she didnt like me. This was in NOvember of 2007. Since then, shes been textn my phone every few months asking how i've been. I look at her facebook page sometimes and I'm kind of fascinated by her because shes my perfect type. Yesterday she textd me saying just saying hey seein whats up, and she wound up asking me out "for drinks or something". I find this to be so crazy to me that this would happen, basically a girl i really like and been slacking on for 2 years asks me out. I have bad social anxiety, and am shy, so I didnt want to go out with her and freeze up and ruin it, so I siad i'd cook for her and get drinks here. What do you make of this whole situation, and whats my best bet here to make this work out good?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LittleBigOne

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To me you look faaaaaar to availble.

She was disrespecting your moves that time. And now you reward her again with cooking for her after two years, for what?
Ask yourself the questions:
- What makes her so perfect? (beside looks)
- How did i felt myself when i was at her place? (i think not comfortable)

My thoughts: she is just bored or just dumped by a guy.
 

Dman101

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well i think i've made myself look not available this whole time by not really trying to make a move on her in the past 2 years. Most of that is just fear and anxiety stopping me, but she probably doesnt know that. My move was admittedly wack, so I can dig her responding the way she did. I have a few other girls that I talk to so its not a oneitis or anything its just certain types of girls I get a weird kind of crush on and shes that type. I just want to get drunk and try to **** her and see how it goes from there. Any advice on how to proceed on this meeting ?
 
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