Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Need help with girl from the past

Dman101

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I met a girl on facebook 2 years ago and she drove an hour to meet me and we went to the movies. On the date she said I look like i dont party much. 4 months later, I saw her again, went to her dorm room to watch a movie. I held her and this time she said i look like a mommas boy. At the end of the night, I rubbed her stomach awkardly, and she said i was too touchy, so I left thinking she didnt like me. This was in NOvember of 2007. Since then, shes been textn my phone every few months asking how i've been. I look at her facebook page sometimes and I'm kind of fascinated by her because shes my perfect type. Yesterday she textd me saying just saying hey seein whats up, and she wound up asking me out "for drinks or something". I find this to be so crazy to me that this would happen, basically a girl i really like and been slacking on for 2 years asks me out. I have bad social anxiety, and am shy, so I didnt want to go out with her and freeze up and ruin it, so I siad i'd cook for her and get drinks here. What do you make of this whole situation, and whats my best bet here to make this work out good?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LittleBigOne

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To me you look faaaaaar to availble.

She was disrespecting your moves that time. And now you reward her again with cooking for her after two years, for what?
Ask yourself the questions:
- What makes her so perfect? (beside looks)
- How did i felt myself when i was at her place? (i think not comfortable)

My thoughts: she is just bored or just dumped by a guy.
 

Dman101

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well i think i've made myself look not available this whole time by not really trying to make a move on her in the past 2 years. Most of that is just fear and anxiety stopping me, but she probably doesnt know that. My move was admittedly wack, so I can dig her responding the way she did. I have a few other girls that I talk to so its not a oneitis or anything its just certain types of girls I get a weird kind of crush on and shes that type. I just want to get drunk and try to **** her and see how it goes from there. Any advice on how to proceed on this meeting ?
 
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