"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Need help with girl from the past

Dman101

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I met a girl on facebook 2 years ago and she drove an hour to meet me and we went to the movies. On the date she said I look like i dont party much. 4 months later, I saw her again, went to her dorm room to watch a movie. I held her and this time she said i look like a mommas boy. At the end of the night, I rubbed her stomach awkardly, and she said i was too touchy, so I left thinking she didnt like me. This was in NOvember of 2007. Since then, shes been textn my phone every few months asking how i've been. I look at her facebook page sometimes and I'm kind of fascinated by her because shes my perfect type. Yesterday she textd me saying just saying hey seein whats up, and she wound up asking me out "for drinks or something". I find this to be so crazy to me that this would happen, basically a girl i really like and been slacking on for 2 years asks me out. I have bad social anxiety, and am shy, so I didnt want to go out with her and freeze up and ruin it, so I siad i'd cook for her and get drinks here. What do you make of this whole situation, and whats my best bet here to make this work out good?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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LittleBigOne

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To me you look faaaaaar to availble.

She was disrespecting your moves that time. And now you reward her again with cooking for her after two years, for what?
Ask yourself the questions:
- What makes her so perfect? (beside looks)
- How did i felt myself when i was at her place? (i think not comfortable)

My thoughts: she is just bored or just dumped by a guy.
 

Dman101

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well i think i've made myself look not available this whole time by not really trying to make a move on her in the past 2 years. Most of that is just fear and anxiety stopping me, but she probably doesnt know that. My move was admittedly wack, so I can dig her responding the way she did. I have a few other girls that I talk to so its not a oneitis or anything its just certain types of girls I get a weird kind of crush on and shes that type. I just want to get drunk and try to **** her and see how it goes from there. Any advice on how to proceed on this meeting ?
 
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