"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Need help with approaches

high desert dj

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today I went to two malls and spent three hours walking around and didnt make any approaches.Part of the problem was that every time I saw an hb that I wanted to approach(usually a girl that was working at a store)she wopuld be surrounded by customers.The ones that were walking by were on cell phones.But mostly my problem was too nervous.
How would you guys handle these situations.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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One thing that I'll do is that I'll go out with a wing/friend and we'll push each other to approach groups and/or single woman. Also, you just in a social mode and open lots of people so approaching is easier.
 

Mercenary

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Originally posted by high desert dj
Part of the problem was that every time I saw an hb that I wanted to approach(usually a girl that was working at a store)she wopuld be surrounded by customers.
That happens to me all the time...
Last week i just went for it... I could see the customers listening in out of the corner of my eye... I didn't let it phase me. After it was all over I felt exhilarated.

You will too
 

JJMcLure

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Originally posted by high desert dj
today I went to two malls and spent three hours walking around and didnt make any approaches.Part of the problem was that every time I saw an hb that I wanted to approach(usually a girl that was working at a store)she wopuld be surrounded by customers.The ones that were walking by were on cell phones.But mostly my problem was too nervous.
How would you guys handle these situations.
Why don't you take the pressure off yourself.

Instead of walking up and thinking you are going to ask her out, just decide you are going to talk to her to ask her a question about a product. Get talking to her about that and when you feel comfortable ask her for her number.
 
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If you think about things too much you'll become nervous and this will hinder your mind and mouth...just think to yourself that the outcome of talking to or getting rejected by a girl has absolutely no affect on your emotions and no negative impact on your life.
Which it doesn't!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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