"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Need help with approaches

high desert dj

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today I went to two malls and spent three hours walking around and didnt make any approaches.Part of the problem was that every time I saw an hb that I wanted to approach(usually a girl that was working at a store)she wopuld be surrounded by customers.The ones that were walking by were on cell phones.But mostly my problem was too nervous.
How would you guys handle these situations.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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One thing that I'll do is that I'll go out with a wing/friend and we'll push each other to approach groups and/or single woman. Also, you just in a social mode and open lots of people so approaching is easier.
 

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Originally posted by high desert dj
Part of the problem was that every time I saw an hb that I wanted to approach(usually a girl that was working at a store)she wopuld be surrounded by customers.
That happens to me all the time...
Last week i just went for it... I could see the customers listening in out of the corner of my eye... I didn't let it phase me. After it was all over I felt exhilarated.

You will too
 

JJMcLure

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Originally posted by high desert dj
today I went to two malls and spent three hours walking around and didnt make any approaches.Part of the problem was that every time I saw an hb that I wanted to approach(usually a girl that was working at a store)she wopuld be surrounded by customers.The ones that were walking by were on cell phones.But mostly my problem was too nervous.
How would you guys handle these situations.
Why don't you take the pressure off yourself.

Instead of walking up and thinking you are going to ask her out, just decide you are going to talk to her to ask her a question about a product. Get talking to her about that and when you feel comfortable ask her for her number.
 
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If you think about things too much you'll become nervous and this will hinder your mind and mouth...just think to yourself that the outcome of talking to or getting rejected by a girl has absolutely no affect on your emotions and no negative impact on your life.
Which it doesn't!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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