"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Need help fast: She asked "Do you say these things to other girls?"
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Trickster_guy_2001
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"Only when I think I'm going to get lucky."
"I only say these things to the women I really like... and then there's you."
No... I'm kidding...
You could say... "only the ones I'm attracted to (if you find her attractive)"... but leave out that "then there's you" part. You're not dating yet as far as I understood from this post, so you can be honest with her... to a degree. Don't tell her you're some kind of master manipulater or player, but letting her know that you have a few other options can't hurt.
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a) tell her you tell them to everyone - you are desperate and it is the only way you know of getting women.
b) no she is the only one - you are desperate and you are a total afc and have a mega oneitis on her.
c) somewhere between the two, without demeaning her or telling her she is the only one in your life.
Ballistik
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Heartmaster
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(1) "Ha. Do you ask that of all the guys?"
(2) "Actually I prefer saying them to guys."
(3) "Yes. In fact, six of my other current girlfriends will be receiving a copy and paste of my side of the conversation, just as soon as we're done."
Or you could mix n match
My preference would be (1)... followed by, "Seriously though, the answer is" (3).Hollowpoint
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I am quite a fan of well written poetic type stuff.
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Me: "Of course not, crazy! Hold on one sec...(Act like you are crossing a line in the palm of your hand like a checklist)"
This is just too easy.
Classical (and typical) sh!t test from a chick.
Anything remotely resembling defending yourself would mean that you have failed.
She wanted you to say that you don't say that to all the chicks and that she is special. However, saying what she wants to hear will lower her attraction level for you because she will think that you are saying what she wanted to hear.
Strange I know, but that's how it is.
So you can't say what she wants to hear. You have to say something that will either:
1. make her laugh; or
2. ignore the whole thing and switch the topic;
I would tell her yes, I say that to all the chicks to try and get in their pants and that particular line has worked 100%. For some reason it didn't work on you, what's wrong with you? Are you weird or something?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Don't say "the ones I'm attracted to" instead say "the ones I find attractive"... it carries the same meaning but in the second you're the one who's in control. In the first, she attracted you to her and she's in control. The second, you found her attractive and you're going for more. That's to be used with those immature girls who are out of control and in effect want to control you. With the afc or innocent girls it doesn't matter how you say it. If she likes you she likes you.
Anyway...
"Obviously you will have made that number up. She'll know you're joking, but still won't know what the hell to believe. You will be more mysterious while dodging the question.