Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Need help fast: She asked "Do you say these things to other girls?"
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Trickster_guy_2001
Don Juan
"Only when I think I'm going to get lucky."
"I only say these things to the women I really like... and then there's you."
No... I'm kidding...
You could say... "only the ones I'm attracted to (if you find her attractive)"... but leave out that "then there's you" part. You're not dating yet as far as I understood from this post, so you can be honest with her... to a degree. Don't tell her you're some kind of master manipulater or player, but letting her know that you have a few other options can't hurt.
Hollowpoint
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a) tell her you tell them to everyone - you are desperate and it is the only way you know of getting women.
b) no she is the only one - you are desperate and you are a total afc and have a mega oneitis on her.
c) somewhere between the two, without demeaning her or telling her she is the only one in your life.
Ballistik
Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Heartmaster
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(1) "Ha. Do you ask that of all the guys?"
(2) "Actually I prefer saying them to guys."
(3) "Yes. In fact, six of my other current girlfriends will be receiving a copy and paste of my side of the conversation, just as soon as we're done."
Or you could mix n match
My preference would be (1)... followed by, "Seriously though, the answer is" (3).Hollowpoint
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I am quite a fan of well written poetic type stuff.
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Me: "Of course not, crazy! Hold on one sec...(Act like you are crossing a line in the palm of your hand like a checklist)"
This is just too easy.
Classical (and typical) sh!t test from a chick.
Anything remotely resembling defending yourself would mean that you have failed.
She wanted you to say that you don't say that to all the chicks and that she is special. However, saying what she wants to hear will lower her attraction level for you because she will think that you are saying what she wanted to hear.
Strange I know, but that's how it is.
So you can't say what she wants to hear. You have to say something that will either:
1. make her laugh; or
2. ignore the whole thing and switch the topic;
I would tell her yes, I say that to all the chicks to try and get in their pants and that particular line has worked 100%. For some reason it didn't work on you, what's wrong with you? Are you weird or something?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Don't say "the ones I'm attracted to" instead say "the ones I find attractive"... it carries the same meaning but in the second you're the one who's in control. In the first, she attracted you to her and she's in control. The second, you found her attractive and you're going for more. That's to be used with those immature girls who are out of control and in effect want to control you. With the afc or innocent girls it doesn't matter how you say it. If she likes you she likes you.
Anyway...
"Obviously you will have made that number up. She'll know you're joking, but still won't know what the hell to believe. You will be more mysterious while dodging the question.