"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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CaptFinnBad

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So been on and off with this borderline women (stupid I know). Started off amazing, I truly got reeled in.

I'll admit it, I lost myself in her.

We've broke up a few times and got back together.

We've broke up again. I need to now stay the **** away from her.

I've been in decent relationships before, longest being nearly 10 years. Sure it hurt breaking up with her but it was a normal process.

My dance with a borderline is totally different to all the healthy relationships I've been in. I'm finding it a totally different kettle of fish.

Finding it very ****ing difficult.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Stay broke up with her. Move on
 

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So been on and off with this borderline women (stupid I know). Started off amazing, I truly got reeled in.

I'll admit it, I lost myself in her.

We've broke up a few times and got back together.

We've broke up again. I need to now stay the **** away from her.

I've been in decent relationships before, longest being nearly 10 years. Sure it hurt breaking up with her but it was a normal process.

My dance with a borderline is totally different to all the healthy relationships I've been in. I'm finding it a totally different kettle of fish.

Finding it very ****ing difficult.
You probably will have to go completely no contact. That means blocking her on every means she has to contact you with no warning or explanation.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stuffnu

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You probably will have to go completely no contact. That means blocking her on every means she has to contact you with no warning or explanation.
Yes, plenty of resources on here to go “no contact”.
You already recognize the toxicity and your dependency with her.
Now you have to crack that addiction by going cold turkey.
Short term pain for long term gain.
Good luck!
 

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So been on and off with this borderline women (stupid I know). Started off amazing, I truly got reeled in.

I'll admit it, I lost myself in her.

We've broke up a few times and got back together.

We've broke up again. I need to now stay the **** away from her.

I've been in decent relationships before, longest being nearly 10 years. Sure it hurt breaking up with her but it was a normal process.

My dance with a borderline is totally different to all the healthy relationships I've been in. I'm finding it a totally different kettle of fish.

Finding it very ****ing difficult.
While it is easy to say "move on" or "find another girl", the truth is your problem stems from self-control and self-discipline. Meaning it is beyond romantic relationships.

You need to start building internal boundaries, self-control, and self-discipline in other parts of your life. Start with your morning routine, most people lag and are all over the place during the first hour of their waking life. Create a solid routine and follow through.

I wake up, meditate, read, and make my bed as soon as I roll out. No questions asked, no whining, no second-guessing. I also stay away from social media for the first few hours of my day. It's simple yet effective as it translates into other parts of my life. I created a self-discipline/follow thru/self-control mindset.

Hope this helps.


Modern Man Advice
 

CaptFinnBad

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Yes, plenty of resources on here to go “no contact”.
You already recognize the toxicity and your dependency with her.
Now you have to crack that addiction by going cold turkey.
Short term pain for long term gain.
Good luck!

I want to consentrate on coin and c u n t . As in focus on making money for a while and sleeping around a bit.

I'm not sure if other women would be helpful in breaking my addiction to her.
 

CaptFinnBad

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While it is easy to say "move on" or "find another girl", the truth is your problem stems from self-control and self-discipline. Meaning it is beyond romantic relationships.

You need to start building internal boundaries, self-control, and self-discipline in other parts of your life. Start with your morning routine, most people lag and are all over the place during the first hour of their waking life. Create a solid routine and follow through.

I wake up, meditate, read, and make my bed as soon as I roll out. No questions asked, no whining, no second-guessing. I also stay away from social media for the first few hours of my day. It's simple yet effective as it translates into other parts of my life. I created a self-discipline/follow thru/self-control mindset.

Hope this helps.


Modern Man Advice
Makes a lot of sense.
 

CaptFinnBad

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You probably will have to go completely no contact. That means blocking her on every means she has to contact you with no warning or explanation.
Blocked her on social media.. I'm finding the instant messenger we use really difficult.

I've deleted the conversation, but still have her number.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm finding it difficult deleting it.
Get a cold one. Pour it in a frozen mug. Hover your finger over the delete button. You're not allowed to enjoy the beer until you eject. You're welcome..
 

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That volume of women.... how do you keep count of all of them?

Wait wut?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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