"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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With a new girl at work.
So how do I handle this?

She joined my place of work over a month ago.We see each other every other day but don't talk much besides greetings.
UNTIL last week she comes to my station(for work purposes).
I start a conversation in which she asks me stuff like where I'm from and how come I don't see my kids.(I don't have any BTW although I did reply to this question).
I guess she was probably trying to find out if I'm married.
Now, upon our next meeting I ask her to give me her number.
Me: I don't have your number btw
Girl.:I don't have a phone(yeah I know)
Me: So how do I get to see you for coffee sometime
Her: Giggles and hits me on the arm, then leaves, without saying another word

So assuming it's a rejection(didn't get number)how do I proceed without things getting awkward since it's at the workplace?

PS. I know not to **** where u eat. Please don't remind me that
Otherwise honest opinion and advice required from the gurus.
I'm ready to get roasted
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You gave her exactly what she was craving...attention. Welcome to Club Orbit
 
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magevis said:
So as I eject, how do I treat her since we work together
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Pretend like nothing happened. Like you never asked her out and she never rejected you. Talk to her professionally and unemotionally.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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magevis said:
Pardon, I don't get it. Do I actively try to avoid her, or continue as if nothing ever happened
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You act the way you normally would. Never let what a woman does or does not do effect the way you act around her.
 
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Trying to avoid her is probably not good. It might reinforce in her mind that something is wrong or build an awkwardness between you two that might not currently exist.

Be polite and professional. But don’t avoid her per se. A friendly “good morning” as you would to other coworkers is fine.
 
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"Why don't you see your kids?"

This has to be the weirdest thing I've ever heard, considering you have no kids and you don't know this woman. I would not waste my time with psychos.

Are we just gonna pretend that this is normal?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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@Murkserious "Why don't you see your kids?"
U definitely onto something.

I work shifts(day or night) in a manufacturing company which runs 24/7.She only works daytime.

Most of my colleagues happen to take leave every other week, at the cost of performance bonus.

I'm saving as much as I can for a future project so I barely take leave to maximise my savings.

She obviously noticed I'm almost always around unlike most of my mates, hence the 'weird ' question.
 
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