"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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With a new girl at work.
So how do I handle this?

She joined my place of work over a month ago.We see each other every other day but don't talk much besides greetings.
UNTIL last week she comes to my station(for work purposes).
I start a conversation in which she asks me stuff like where I'm from and how come I don't see my kids.(I don't have any BTW although I did reply to this question).
I guess she was probably trying to find out if I'm married.
Now, upon our next meeting I ask her to give me her number.
Me: I don't have your number btw
Girl.:I don't have a phone(yeah I know)
Me: So how do I get to see you for coffee sometime
Her: Giggles and hits me on the arm, then leaves, without saying another word

So assuming it's a rejection(didn't get number)how do I proceed without things getting awkward since it's at the workplace?

PS. I know not to **** where u eat. Please don't remind me that
Otherwise honest opinion and advice required from the gurus.
I'm ready to get roasted
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You gave her exactly what she was craving...attention. Welcome to Club Orbit
 

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So as I eject, how do I treat her since we work together
Pretend like nothing happened. Like you never asked her out and she never rejected you. Talk to her professionally and unemotionally.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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marmel75

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Pardon, I don't get it. Do I actively try to avoid her, or continue as if nothing ever happened
You act the way you normally would. Never let what a woman does or does not do effect the way you act around her.
 

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Trying to avoid her is probably not good. It might reinforce in her mind that something is wrong or build an awkwardness between you two that might not currently exist.

Be polite and professional. But don’t avoid her per se. A friendly “good morning” as you would to other coworkers is fine.
 

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"Why don't you see your kids?"

This has to be the weirdest thing I've ever heard, considering you have no kids and you don't know this woman. I would not waste my time with psychos.

Are we just gonna pretend that this is normal?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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@Murkserious "Why don't you see your kids?"
U definitely onto something.

I work shifts(day or night) in a manufacturing company which runs 24/7.She only works daytime.

Most of my colleagues happen to take leave every other week, at the cost of performance bonus.

I'm saving as much as I can for a future project so I barely take leave to maximise my savings.

She obviously noticed I'm almost always around unlike most of my mates, hence the 'weird ' question.
 
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