Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What, deadlifts x 50reps? Why?Credos said:I wanna try some new exercises, so anybody who knows in which I could change these:
50x Deadlift @ 135lbs
50x KB Clean and Press @ 36lbs (KB must touch floor between reps)
and perhaps
50x Floor Wiper @ 135lbs
Low weights, but doing it a lot more, so that the muscles become used to the weights and grow more "Solid"...shaunuk said:What, deadlifts x 50reps? Why?
Well thats the main problem with the deadlifts, my back hurts like hell... thats why i wanted a new exercise.shaunuk said:You can replace deadlifts with rack deadlifts. Set the safety pins up in the power rack with a barbell on it such that the barbell is about 2" below your knee. Rack deads rely far less on the quads, hamstrings and glutes, but they're good for overloading the back (more weight can be used than floor deadlifts).
-shaun
Eh?Credos said:Low weights, but doing it a lot more, so that the muscles become used to the weights and grow more "Solid"...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
simon said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.