"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How about asking a proper question.

You can get your girl a damned toothbrush and she'll still be happy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Guess you two are on good terms still. Possibly getting back with her?

What's your EX into? What's her interests?
 

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keoss said:
dont be an idiot :) i want to hear ideas from other people .
But then it wouldn't be original, now would it? And why are you buying something for an ex?
 

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yeah , we are in good term.i want something that wont say " i still feel sth for u " because i dont feel sth for her . this is my dialema .we are only friend now , but good freinds.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Box of toothpicks
 

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Yes, we don't condone gifts for any reason. If you are going to be giving gifts to say "I don't want to say I still feel for you", than you are still caught up on her, and you still feel for her.

You wouldn't bother asking if you didn't. Just treat her like another woman.

Pick a good movie, two theatre passes, something practical. If you want to send out a message, get her something she can use on a date with another guy, and put it into words when you place the gift in her arms.

You shouldn't be scared anyways. I buy all of my gifts for women at garage/house sales, there is always stuff that women love there but never have any use for.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thanks for ur reply. to tell u the truth , i dont feel anything for her , it's been more than 6 or 7 mounths that we separated .my probleme is that am confused , as i dont know much about girls interpretations and that stuff , u can only imagine my dialema , if i am to give her some kind of gifts , she would have thought that am in some kinda of trance for her , that's why i asked about kinds of gifts.i know , my post wanst that clear , to rewrite it in another way : "what gifts can i give to a friend ? " and i think the answer would be :a nice 'friendly' postcard , with some friendly words on it .
thanks a lot.
 

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Postcards... I think you just pushed me over the edge. WHy did I NEVER think of postcards when sarging at the post office... I feel like a retard right now.
 

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Is she interested or seeing anyone now?

Give her a gift card to somewhere like a restaurant and tell her to use it with another guy she may like.
 
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