"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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flippinfreak

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How about asking a proper question.

You can get your girl a damned toothbrush and she'll still be happy.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Guess you two are on good terms still. Possibly getting back with her?

What's your EX into? What's her interests?
 

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keoss said:
dont be an idiot :) i want to hear ideas from other people .
But then it wouldn't be original, now would it? And why are you buying something for an ex?
 

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yeah , we are in good term.i want something that wont say " i still feel sth for u " because i dont feel sth for her . this is my dialema .we are only friend now , but good freinds.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Box of toothpicks
 

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Yes, we don't condone gifts for any reason. If you are going to be giving gifts to say "I don't want to say I still feel for you", than you are still caught up on her, and you still feel for her.

You wouldn't bother asking if you didn't. Just treat her like another woman.

Pick a good movie, two theatre passes, something practical. If you want to send out a message, get her something she can use on a date with another guy, and put it into words when you place the gift in her arms.

You shouldn't be scared anyways. I buy all of my gifts for women at garage/house sales, there is always stuff that women love there but never have any use for.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thanks for ur reply. to tell u the truth , i dont feel anything for her , it's been more than 6 or 7 mounths that we separated .my probleme is that am confused , as i dont know much about girls interpretations and that stuff , u can only imagine my dialema , if i am to give her some kind of gifts , she would have thought that am in some kinda of trance for her , that's why i asked about kinds of gifts.i know , my post wanst that clear , to rewrite it in another way : "what gifts can i give to a friend ? " and i think the answer would be :a nice 'friendly' postcard , with some friendly words on it .
thanks a lot.
 

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Postcards... I think you just pushed me over the edge. WHy did I NEVER think of postcards when sarging at the post office... I feel like a retard right now.
 

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Is she interested or seeing anyone now?

Give her a gift card to somewhere like a restaurant and tell her to use it with another guy she may like.
 
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