it feels like every weekend i come to a crossroads with my decision making skills. ive been kinda getting tired of my friends, but the thing that is bugging me the most is the lack of girls in my life. i know i know, plently of you out there are saying "well thats nothing to complain about" or "why are you so whipped" but regardless im still pretty down because i want a girlfriend badly. which brings me to now. every weekend i go out, which means friday and saturday nights obviously. but i dont really end up meeting girls. my problem used to be that i was trying to hard and looking too hard to meet girls. so someone suggested to me that i just stick with the boys, have fun, and the girls will come along. well, ive been trying that theory now and all iam left with is my two hands at night. basically, im sick of being lonely. i have everything i want in life, except a girl. the thing is, i know how to play the game once the opprotunity is given to me, but for some reason i cant seem to find a girl, and when she does come around i P****y out and dont say **** to her. now this leaves me at tonight. f**K the past and whatnot, tonight is all i care about. i want to meet a girl thats right for me, but i dont know where to go. should i just stay home or do you always have to be in it to win it?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
for some reason i cant seem to find a girl, and when she does come around i P****y out and dont say **** to her. It sounds like you already know what your problem is.
Also, you're not gonna meet any girls staying home.. When you stop looking, then you will find her. Quit stressin about it.. it never solves anything. One thing you could try is taking a wing woman out with you.
Also, you're not gonna meet any girls staying home.. When you stop looking, then you will find her. Quit stressin about it.. it never solves anything. One thing you could try is taking a wing woman out with you.
Go out and try to socialize more and more, even if not with your buddies. Think about that, you will be out of your comfort zone and getting direct practice with unfamiliar situations. Last night, my wing was M.I.A. for some reason and I had to go it alone to the mall and sarge, and I did. Afterwards I hit up the car show which is something I've NEVER done and I made an effort to speak to ppl, even though the ratio of guys to girls must've been like 10:1, I still forced myself to socialize. Don't quit doing the things you like 2 do, that would be unfair to yourself.