it feels like every weekend i come to a crossroads with my decision making skills. ive been kinda getting tired of my friends, but the thing that is bugging me the most is the lack of girls in my life. i know i know, plently of you out there are saying "well thats nothing to complain about" or "why are you so whipped" but regardless im still pretty down because i want a girlfriend badly. which brings me to now. every weekend i go out, which means friday and saturday nights obviously. but i dont really end up meeting girls. my problem used to be that i was trying to hard and looking too hard to meet girls. so someone suggested to me that i just stick with the boys, have fun, and the girls will come along. well, ive been trying that theory now and all iam left with is my two hands at night. basically, im sick of being lonely. i have everything i want in life, except a girl. the thing is, i know how to play the game once the opprotunity is given to me, but for some reason i cant seem to find a girl, and when she does come around i P****y out and dont say **** to her. now this leaves me at tonight. f**K the past and whatnot, tonight is all i care about. i want to meet a girl thats right for me, but i dont know where to go. should i just stay home or do you always have to be in it to win it?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
splinterkb
Master Don Juan
for some reason i cant seem to find a girl, and when she does come around i P****y out and dont say **** to her. It sounds like you already know what your problem is.
Also, you're not gonna meet any girls staying home.. When you stop looking, then you will find her. Quit stressin about it.. it never solves anything. One thing you could try is taking a wing woman out with you.
Also, you're not gonna meet any girls staying home.. When you stop looking, then you will find her. Quit stressin about it.. it never solves anything. One thing you could try is taking a wing woman out with you.
Go out and try to socialize more and more, even if not with your buddies. Think about that, you will be out of your comfort zone and getting direct practice with unfamiliar situations. Last night, my wing was M.I.A. for some reason and I had to go it alone to the mall and sarge, and I did. Afterwards I hit up the car show which is something I've NEVER done and I made an effort to speak to ppl, even though the ratio of guys to girls must've been like 10:1, I still forced myself to socialize. Don't quit doing the things you like 2 do, that would be unfair to yourself.