"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ok, so I have never done this before, but I got bored one night and started talking to this girl through an on-line dating website. I start talking to this girl, eventually e-mailing this girl daily and talking to her on the phone for like 2 hours a night.

I have now been dating her for several weeks now. However, the only time she seems to want to spend with me is talking on the phone for a few hous every night, texting back and forth through the day, and me picking her up during her long lunch break on Tueasdays and Thursdays and hanging out(I bring her back to my place and have messed aroung with her several times).

However, she is my girlfriend now and has canceled our scheduled plans to hang out(at a set time) on weekends now 5 weekends in a row. Granted the first two weekends we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet.

She says all these things like "happy two week anniversary" on texts to me and that she loves hanging out with me, but at the last minute or even after we are supposed to be hanging out she has excuses like I have to go to my nephew's football game, I have to grade papers, or something so she flakes and doesn't hang out with me.

Even after she cancels on me last minute, she doesn't try to hang out on Sunday or later that day. Whats up with this girl? How should I react from a girl who keeps canceling on me?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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btw, I know for a fact this girl is not seeing other guys. Don't ask why. I just know that this is not the case. It, to me, seems she she just wants someone she can talk to me when she wants.

She told me she basically has no other friends.
 
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Make yourself less readily available. She'll then go out of her way to spend more time with you and give you what you want, because she'll repect the time you DO give her even more.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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collegeEJ said:
I have now been dating her for several weeks now ... However, she is my girlfriend now
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Nope, she's using you just to kill time between classes/parties when she's bored. Demand respect from her, and if she doesn't shape up, dump her ass.
 
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I was thinking the same thing. It does seem that she just wants me on her own time to talk on the phone, hang out at her lunchtime, etc.

Ron Paul for President '08.
 
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"btw, I know for a fact this girl is not seeing other guys. Don't ask why. I just know that this is not the case."

HAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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no weekends.........


must be she's in LOOVE. HAHAHA!!!!

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