"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ok, so I have never done this before, but I got bored one night and started talking to this girl through an on-line dating website. I start talking to this girl, eventually e-mailing this girl daily and talking to her on the phone for like 2 hours a night.

I have now been dating her for several weeks now. However, the only time she seems to want to spend with me is talking on the phone for a few hous every night, texting back and forth through the day, and me picking her up during her long lunch break on Tueasdays and Thursdays and hanging out(I bring her back to my place and have messed aroung with her several times).

However, she is my girlfriend now and has canceled our scheduled plans to hang out(at a set time) on weekends now 5 weekends in a row. Granted the first two weekends we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet.

She says all these things like "happy two week anniversary" on texts to me and that she loves hanging out with me, but at the last minute or even after we are supposed to be hanging out she has excuses like I have to go to my nephew's football game, I have to grade papers, or something so she flakes and doesn't hang out with me.

Even after she cancels on me last minute, she doesn't try to hang out on Sunday or later that day. Whats up with this girl? How should I react from a girl who keeps canceling on me?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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btw, I know for a fact this girl is not seeing other guys. Don't ask why. I just know that this is not the case. It, to me, seems she she just wants someone she can talk to me when she wants.

She told me she basically has no other friends.
 
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Make yourself less readily available. She'll then go out of her way to spend more time with you and give you what you want, because she'll repect the time you DO give her even more.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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collegeEJ said:
I have now been dating her for several weeks now ... However, she is my girlfriend now
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Nope, she's using you just to kill time between classes/parties when she's bored. Demand respect from her, and if she doesn't shape up, dump her ass.
 
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I was thinking the same thing. It does seem that she just wants me on her own time to talk on the phone, hang out at her lunchtime, etc.

Ron Paul for President '08.
 
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"btw, I know for a fact this girl is not seeing other guys. Don't ask why. I just know that this is not the case."

HAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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no weekends.........


must be she's in LOOVE. HAHAHA!!!!

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