"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Ok, so I have never done this before, but I got bored one night and started talking to this girl through an on-line dating website. I start talking to this girl, eventually e-mailing this girl daily and talking to her on the phone for like 2 hours a night.

I have now been dating her for several weeks now. However, the only time she seems to want to spend with me is talking on the phone for a few hous every night, texting back and forth through the day, and me picking her up during her long lunch break on Tueasdays and Thursdays and hanging out(I bring her back to my place and have messed aroung with her several times).

However, she is my girlfriend now and has canceled our scheduled plans to hang out(at a set time) on weekends now 5 weekends in a row. Granted the first two weekends we weren't boyfriend and girlfriend yet.

She says all these things like "happy two week anniversary" on texts to me and that she loves hanging out with me, but at the last minute or even after we are supposed to be hanging out she has excuses like I have to go to my nephew's football game, I have to grade papers, or something so she flakes and doesn't hang out with me.

Even after she cancels on me last minute, she doesn't try to hang out on Sunday or later that day. Whats up with this girl? How should I react from a girl who keeps canceling on me?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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btw, I know for a fact this girl is not seeing other guys. Don't ask why. I just know that this is not the case. It, to me, seems she she just wants someone she can talk to me when she wants.

She told me she basically has no other friends.
 
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Make yourself less readily available. She'll then go out of her way to spend more time with you and give you what you want, because she'll repect the time you DO give her even more.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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collegeEJ said:
I have now been dating her for several weeks now ... However, she is my girlfriend now
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Nope, she's using you just to kill time between classes/parties when she's bored. Demand respect from her, and if she doesn't shape up, dump her ass.
 
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I was thinking the same thing. It does seem that she just wants me on her own time to talk on the phone, hang out at her lunchtime, etc.

Ron Paul for President '08.
 
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"btw, I know for a fact this girl is not seeing other guys. Don't ask why. I just know that this is not the case."

HAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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no weekends.........


must be she's in LOOVE. HAHAHA!!!!

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