help. i suck at flirting and maintaining sets. i have low enthusiasm and i tend to be very direct about things which makes me appear very dull person to be around with. i feel that i need to fix this, as i notice that i cant keep up with the pace with the people im around with when their being flirtatious.. i tend to be quiet in groups. need advice.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
need advice on flirting
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
read the bible, then go out and practice, that is the only advice anyone can give. Find some things you are passionate about other than women and talk to them about those things
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that's what im trying not to do. i do that, and it seems to be going nowhere. flirting involves like.. playful banter and sh1t and it lives at the moment. i suck at that. no chick wants to hear about a guy's interest. football, politics, and all that bs takes you further away from your goals of bedding a chick.brenbaus said:Find some things you are passionate about other than women and talk to them about those things
anyway, i think im just going to watch the season: sex and the city, episodes. because thats what i was planning to do anyway. if anybody has recommendations of some seduction material, please recommend. just please: do not recommend any david deangolo. lol. im already dull enough, and if i listen to that guy try to give me a long-winded scientific explanation on sex, i think i will just become even more dull.
The bible ffs!rocco said:that's what im trying not to do. i do that, and it seems to be going nowhere. flirting involves like.. playful banter and sh1t and it lives at the moment. i suck at that. no chick wants to hear about a guy's interest. football, politics, and all that bs takes you further away from your goals of bedding a chick.
anyway, i think im just going to watch the season: sex and the city, episodes. because thats what i was planning to do anyway. if anybody has recommendations of some seduction material, please recommend. just please: do not recommend any david deangolo. lol. im already dull enough, and if i listen to that guy try to give me a long-winded scientific explanation on sex, i think i will just become even more dull.
Also, David D rocks - but he won make any sense unless you actually go out and try the stuff he teaches. You cant just watch all his stuff and become a grandmaster pickup artist in your apartment - you need to practice, evaluate and learn. His stuff will make sense first when you try it out in the field and make it work for you...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
First you have to understand what flirting is in the first place. It's making someone feel good about themselves while showing an appreciation for them. In order to be a successful flirt, you must first feel that way about yourself.
Think about it.
Think about it.