help. i suck at flirting and maintaining sets. i have low enthusiasm and i tend to be very direct about things which makes me appear very dull person to be around with. i feel that i need to fix this, as i notice that i cant keep up with the pace with the people im around with when their being flirtatious.. i tend to be quiet in groups. need advice.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
need advice on flirting
- Thread starter rocco
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
brenbaus
Senior Don Juan
read the bible, then go out and practice, that is the only advice anyone can give. Find some things you are passionate about other than women and talk to them about those things
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that's what im trying not to do. i do that, and it seems to be going nowhere. flirting involves like.. playful banter and sh1t and it lives at the moment. i suck at that. no chick wants to hear about a guy's interest. football, politics, and all that bs takes you further away from your goals of bedding a chick.brenbaus said:Find some things you are passionate about other than women and talk to them about those things
anyway, i think im just going to watch the season: sex and the city, episodes. because thats what i was planning to do anyway. if anybody has recommendations of some seduction material, please recommend. just please: do not recommend any david deangolo. lol. im already dull enough, and if i listen to that guy try to give me a long-winded scientific explanation on sex, i think i will just become even more dull.
The bible ffs!rocco said:that's what im trying not to do. i do that, and it seems to be going nowhere. flirting involves like.. playful banter and sh1t and it lives at the moment. i suck at that. no chick wants to hear about a guy's interest. football, politics, and all that bs takes you further away from your goals of bedding a chick.
anyway, i think im just going to watch the season: sex and the city, episodes. because thats what i was planning to do anyway. if anybody has recommendations of some seduction material, please recommend. just please: do not recommend any david deangolo. lol. im already dull enough, and if i listen to that guy try to give me a long-winded scientific explanation on sex, i think i will just become even more dull.
Also, David D rocks - but he won make any sense unless you actually go out and try the stuff he teaches. You cant just watch all his stuff and become a grandmaster pickup artist in your apartment - you need to practice, evaluate and learn. His stuff will make sense first when you try it out in the field and make it work for you...
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
First you have to understand what flirting is in the first place. It's making someone feel good about themselves while showing an appreciation for them. In order to be a successful flirt, you must first feel that way about yourself.
Think about it.
Think about it.