"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Need advice from 25+ years please!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
BeyondCharm
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As you mentioned, there is a big age gap, and you two are at different stages in life. She's in the real world and you're in school. But so what? If you two like each other and have fun, does it matter that one of you is a student and the other out? If you legitimately have a real connection, then just see what happens. My neighbors (early 30's single women) do the same thing with their girlfriends, I swear all they care about is his age, job, and looks (in that order), it's pretty shallow.
Also keep in mind that your ride in school will come to an end and you'll need to man up and join the real world sooner than you think.
iqqi
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That is the issue here, nothing else.
TheRealSupreme
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I usually dated girls in their 20's.
The downside is that I had NOTHING in common with these girls or kids. I actually grew to resent their youth. As I approached 45 years of age I knew they would still be young and it bugged.
That old ideology of a 40 year old with a 20 year old is stupid and doesn't work.
I would talk about old shows like "Get Smart" the original not the new one coming out and it would fall on deaf ears.
I learned that the closer in age you are the better your relationship will be.
I upped my dating age to 30's and even that was too far of a stretch.
My current is 45 and that is perfect for me. I am having more fun with her than I would a girl half her age.
Sure young pvssy sounds better on the surface. And it certainly boosted my ego to my peers. But those same peers do not have to live my life.
Age difference relationships are not the way to go...sorry kid.
If your age is bothering her right now it will bug her later on when she is turning 40 and your just turning 30.
It will bug her when she is beginning to wrinkle and your still very youthful.
I hope your love for each other is strong enough to surpass this.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
(1) You haven't met her friends 9 months into the relationship? She lets you inside her but won't let you meet her closest friends? Hmmm....Gamble said:Right now I am 20 years old, my girlfriend is 29. Right now we are at different stages of our lives, I am still a student in college, and she has a degree and has a fulltime job. It seems as if her friends are letting her know that this will not work out. I know they are just trying to look out for her, they just don't want to see me "play" her later in the future because of our age difference. What should I tell her? Should I just move on and let it be? It's been 9 months so far... This girl and I are deeply in love...
(2) You and her are deeply in love, yet you ask "should I move on?" just because some friends say something to her about you? Friends who you have never met? That doesn't sound like love to me, that sounds like looking for an excuse to get out of a 9 month relationship that you both see going nowhere but are either both too afraid to end it and are together out of convenience.
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