"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Need advice from 25+ years please!
- Thread starter Gamble
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
BeyondCharm
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As you mentioned, there is a big age gap, and you two are at different stages in life. She's in the real world and you're in school. But so what? If you two like each other and have fun, does it matter that one of you is a student and the other out? If you legitimately have a real connection, then just see what happens. My neighbors (early 30's single women) do the same thing with their girlfriends, I swear all they care about is his age, job, and looks (in that order), it's pretty shallow.
Also keep in mind that your ride in school will come to an end and you'll need to man up and join the real world sooner than you think.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
That is the issue here, nothing else.
TheRealSupreme
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I usually dated girls in their 20's.
The downside is that I had NOTHING in common with these girls or kids. I actually grew to resent their youth. As I approached 45 years of age I knew they would still be young and it bugged.
That old ideology of a 40 year old with a 20 year old is stupid and doesn't work.
I would talk about old shows like "Get Smart" the original not the new one coming out and it would fall on deaf ears.
I learned that the closer in age you are the better your relationship will be.
I upped my dating age to 30's and even that was too far of a stretch.
My current is 45 and that is perfect for me. I am having more fun with her than I would a girl half her age.
Sure young pvssy sounds better on the surface. And it certainly boosted my ego to my peers. But those same peers do not have to live my life.
Age difference relationships are not the way to go...sorry kid.
If your age is bothering her right now it will bug her later on when she is turning 40 and your just turning 30.
It will bug her when she is beginning to wrinkle and your still very youthful.
I hope your love for each other is strong enough to surpass this.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
(1) You haven't met her friends 9 months into the relationship? She lets you inside her but won't let you meet her closest friends? Hmmm....Gamble said:Right now I am 20 years old, my girlfriend is 29. Right now we are at different stages of our lives, I am still a student in college, and she has a degree and has a fulltime job. It seems as if her friends are letting her know that this will not work out. I know they are just trying to look out for her, they just don't want to see me "play" her later in the future because of our age difference. What should I tell her? Should I just move on and let it be? It's been 9 months so far... This girl and I are deeply in love...
(2) You and her are deeply in love, yet you ask "should I move on?" just because some friends say something to her about you? Friends who you have never met? That doesn't sound like love to me, that sounds like looking for an excuse to get out of a 9 month relationship that you both see going nowhere but are either both too afraid to end it and are together out of convenience.
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Before it's through and the night is done, man I'm gonna have fun!
Don't get too caught up with this thing long-term and you can come back here and thank us in 10 years.