"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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so right now, i'm texting with a girl i've been going out with for 4 months (not exclusive). our conversation is about our status/exclusivity. should i just go along (lead her to define our status), or take this convo in real life? I'm not good in real life convo though. I'm afraid I'll stutter.

note: her interest level is high, and she stated on the sms that she doesn't want me seeing other girl.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well tell her you want to be exclusive then. If she brought it up already its a win win situation. It would be best to do it over the phone not through texting but either way is good.
 
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what I'm afraid of is that she will perceive me as a coward by doing it thru texting..
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Maybe depends on the girl it is best to call.
 
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Fela Kuti said:
what I'm afraid of is that she will perceive me as a coward by doing it thru texting..
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That's one point of about three different mistakes you're making. Why are you going against your better judgements? What are you afraid of?
 
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OK..

Don't do it through texting. Call her and schudle a coffee date.


Tell her that you're in search of perfect female. Once you find her you will be exclusive with her. Tell her she needs more testing. Then go out and have fun with your hoe.


My personal advice, based on what I want, don't be exclusive. Being exclusive will limit your views and you just might end up with one girl for the rest of your life. You can't be honest with yourself if you tell yourself that there is no other girl out there that's better than her.

Don't worry. She's not gonna go psycho if you tell her that. She wants to be with you, and going psycho is a sure way to end it all.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
That's one point of about three different mistakes you're making. Why are you going against your better judgements? What are you afraid of?
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so what's my other 2 mistakes, mate?
 
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Have you had sex with her?

If you have, then she's already judged you and deemed you worthy, so go talk about it in person, just don't do a big "heart to hear" talk.

If you haven't sexed her, go do it, ASAP.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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  1. Discussing the other people the two of you are seeing. No good comes of it and people tend to do stupid things in order to determine their place in the pecking order.
  2. Allowing her to dictate her wants before the two of you are exclusive. Her telling you that she doesn't want you seeing other women doesn't mean that you are exclusive. Consider this, one woman tells you that she doesn't want you to see other women while another woman tells you that she wants to be exclusive with you; there is a difference between both requests.
 
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1. I never stated that I discuss other people we are seeing. And we actually didn't.
2. I only asked her, "what if i date other girl?" And she answered like that.

It all don't matter though. We are exclusive now :) :) Thanks, all.
 
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