need advice ASAP :)

[Fela Kuti]

so right now, i'm texting with a girl i've been going out with for 4 months (not exclusive). our conversation is about our status/exclusivity. should i just go along (lead her to define our status), or take this convo in real life? I'm not good in real life convo though. I'm afraid I'll stutter.

note: her interest level is high, and she stated on the sms that she doesn't want me seeing other girl.

 

[NickBe]

Do you want to see other girls?

 

[Fela Kuti]

Do you want to see other girls?

nope

 

[NickBe]

Well tell her you want to be exclusive then. If she brought it up already its a win win situation. It would be best to do it over the phone not through texting but either way is good.

 

[Fela Kuti]

what I'm afraid of is that she will perceive me as a coward by doing it thru texting..

 

[NickBe]

Maybe depends on the girl it is best to call.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

what I'm afraid of is that she will perceive me as a coward by doing it thru texting..

That's one point of about three different mistakes you're making. Why are you going against your better judgements? What are you afraid of?

 

[ViciousDADogg]

OK..

Don't do it through texting. Call her and schudle a coffee date.


Tell her that you're in search of perfect female. Once you find her you will be exclusive with her. Tell her she needs more testing. Then go out and have fun with your hoe.


My personal advice, based on what I want, don't be exclusive. Being exclusive will limit your views and you just might end up with one girl for the rest of your life. You can't be honest with yourself if you tell yourself that there is no other girl out there that's better than her.

Don't worry. She's not gonna go psycho if you tell her that. She wants to be with you, and going psycho is a sure way to end it all.

 

[Fela Kuti]

That's one point of about three different mistakes you're making. Why are you going against your better judgements? What are you afraid of?

so what's my other 2 mistakes, mate?

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Have you had sex with her?

If you have, then she's already judged you and deemed you worthy, so go talk about it in person, just don't do a big "heart to hear" talk.

If you haven't sexed her, go do it, ASAP.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

1. Discussing the other people the two of you are seeing. No good comes of it and people tend to do stupid things in order to determine their place in the pecking order.
2. Allowing her to dictate her wants before the two of you are exclusive. Her telling you that she doesn't want you seeing other women doesn't mean that you are exclusive. Consider this, one woman tells you that she doesn't want you to see other women while another woman tells you that she wants to be exclusive with you; there is a difference between both requests.

 

[Fela Kuti]

1. I never stated that I discuss other people we are seeing. And we actually didn't.
2. I only asked her, "what if i date other girl?" And she answered like that.

It all don't matter though. We are exclusive now Thanks, all.