"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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so right now, i'm texting with a girl i've been going out with for 4 months (not exclusive). our conversation is about our status/exclusivity. should i just go along (lead her to define our status), or take this convo in real life? I'm not good in real life convo though. I'm afraid I'll stutter.

note: her interest level is high, and she stated on the sms that she doesn't want me seeing other girl.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well tell her you want to be exclusive then. If she brought it up already its a win win situation. It would be best to do it over the phone not through texting but either way is good.
 
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what I'm afraid of is that she will perceive me as a coward by doing it thru texting..
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Maybe depends on the girl it is best to call.
 
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Fela Kuti said:
what I'm afraid of is that she will perceive me as a coward by doing it thru texting..
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That's one point of about three different mistakes you're making. Why are you going against your better judgements? What are you afraid of?
 
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OK..

Don't do it through texting. Call her and schudle a coffee date.


Tell her that you're in search of perfect female. Once you find her you will be exclusive with her. Tell her she needs more testing. Then go out and have fun with your hoe.


My personal advice, based on what I want, don't be exclusive. Being exclusive will limit your views and you just might end up with one girl for the rest of your life. You can't be honest with yourself if you tell yourself that there is no other girl out there that's better than her.

Don't worry. She's not gonna go psycho if you tell her that. She wants to be with you, and going psycho is a sure way to end it all.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia said:
That's one point of about three different mistakes you're making. Why are you going against your better judgements? What are you afraid of?
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so what's my other 2 mistakes, mate?
 
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Have you had sex with her?

If you have, then she's already judged you and deemed you worthy, so go talk about it in person, just don't do a big "heart to hear" talk.

If you haven't sexed her, go do it, ASAP.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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  1. Discussing the other people the two of you are seeing. No good comes of it and people tend to do stupid things in order to determine their place in the pecking order.
  2. Allowing her to dictate her wants before the two of you are exclusive. Her telling you that she doesn't want you seeing other women doesn't mean that you are exclusive. Consider this, one woman tells you that she doesn't want you to see other women while another woman tells you that she wants to be exclusive with you; there is a difference between both requests.
 
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1. I never stated that I discuss other people we are seeing. And we actually didn't.
2. I only asked her, "what if i date other girl?" And she answered like that.

It all don't matter though. We are exclusive now :) :) Thanks, all.
 
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