So I was leaving a party with a buddy of mine and I noticed a cute girl who I would really like to get to know. I tell my buddy I think that girl is cute and he happens to know her so we leave. Couple of days later my friend talks to her and tells her I think she is cute and we go to her workplace and she introduces herself to me and goes back to her work. I dont know when I will see this girl again and want to know if I should wait it out and try to catch her at another future party or should I add her on facebook and send her some messages? I dont want to get her number from my friend but is adding her to facebook just as bad?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Usually not a good thing for a friend to do.Err0r said:my friend talks to her and tells her I think she is cute
Your friend getting her number is bad, as is starting things over facebook. Go and find her and set something up.I dont know when I will see this girl again and want to know if I should wait it out and try to catch her at another future party or should I add her on facebook and send her some messages? I dont want to get her number from my friend but is adding her to facebook just as bad?
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Think of it logically...
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
WELL YOUR WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY MAYHAVE BEEN CLOSED........so U gotta see if that window is locked, if it isnt, you can reopen it.
HEsitation leads to masturbation......stop allowing opportunities pass you by or outsourcing your seduction tactic. I know movie stars outsource thier pickups by getting their body guards to go get the girl of their choice. I assume you aint that popular yet.
So...........do it for yourself.........no not masturbation, I am talking when U see a chic......start gaming a chic......all by your lonesome.
When U get the chics digits, instant date, or even rejected.......give yourself a high five cause U attempted with no help. U will find that after a few of these.........hmmm around 10-15 cold approaches.........you WILL get a lot better and it will be all too easy.
HEsitation leads to masturbation......stop allowing opportunities pass you by or outsourcing your seduction tactic. I know movie stars outsource thier pickups by getting their body guards to go get the girl of their choice. I assume you aint that popular yet.
So...........do it for yourself.........no not masturbation, I am talking when U see a chic......start gaming a chic......all by your lonesome.
When U get the chics digits, instant date, or even rejected.......give yourself a high five cause U attempted with no help. U will find that after a few of these.........hmmm around 10-15 cold approaches.........you WILL get a lot better and it will be all too easy.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I agree, I should have tried to game her at the party but we were already leaving and she was around all her friends so I didn't know how to approach that since I didnt know her or any of her friends.Kevin Feng said:Think of it logically...
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
We have made contact at her workplace, she introduced herself and thats it. I guess I should wait it out then and take the next opportunity.