So I was leaving a party with a buddy of mine and I noticed a cute girl who I would really like to get to know. I tell my buddy I think that girl is cute and he happens to know her so we leave. Couple of days later my friend talks to her and tells her I think she is cute and we go to her workplace and she introduces herself to me and goes back to her work. I dont know when I will see this girl again and want to know if I should wait it out and try to catch her at another future party or should I add her on facebook and send her some messages? I dont want to get her number from my friend but is adding her to facebook just as bad?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Usually not a good thing for a friend to do.Err0r said:my friend talks to her and tells her I think she is cute
Your friend getting her number is bad, as is starting things over facebook. Go and find her and set something up.I dont know when I will see this girl again and want to know if I should wait it out and try to catch her at another future party or should I add her on facebook and send her some messages? I dont want to get her number from my friend but is adding her to facebook just as bad?
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Think of it logically...
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
WELL YOUR WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY MAYHAVE BEEN CLOSED........so U gotta see if that window is locked, if it isnt, you can reopen it.
HEsitation leads to masturbation......stop allowing opportunities pass you by or outsourcing your seduction tactic. I know movie stars outsource thier pickups by getting their body guards to go get the girl of their choice. I assume you aint that popular yet.
So...........do it for yourself.........no not masturbation, I am talking when U see a chic......start gaming a chic......all by your lonesome.
When U get the chics digits, instant date, or even rejected.......give yourself a high five cause U attempted with no help. U will find that after a few of these.........hmmm around 10-15 cold approaches.........you WILL get a lot better and it will be all too easy.
HEsitation leads to masturbation......stop allowing opportunities pass you by or outsourcing your seduction tactic. I know movie stars outsource thier pickups by getting their body guards to go get the girl of their choice. I assume you aint that popular yet.
So...........do it for yourself.........no not masturbation, I am talking when U see a chic......start gaming a chic......all by your lonesome.
When U get the chics digits, instant date, or even rejected.......give yourself a high five cause U attempted with no help. U will find that after a few of these.........hmmm around 10-15 cold approaches.........you WILL get a lot better and it will be all too easy.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I agree, I should have tried to game her at the party but we were already leaving and she was around all her friends so I didn't know how to approach that since I didnt know her or any of her friends.Kevin Feng said:Think of it logically...
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
We have made contact at her workplace, she introduced herself and thats it. I guess I should wait it out then and take the next opportunity.