So I was leaving a party with a buddy of mine and I noticed a cute girl who I would really like to get to know. I tell my buddy I think that girl is cute and he happens to know her so we leave. Couple of days later my friend talks to her and tells her I think she is cute and we go to her workplace and she introduces herself to me and goes back to her work. I dont know when I will see this girl again and want to know if I should wait it out and try to catch her at another future party or should I add her on facebook and send her some messages? I dont want to get her number from my friend but is adding her to facebook just as bad?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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- Thread starter Err0r
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Usually not a good thing for a friend to do.Err0r said:my friend talks to her and tells her I think she is cute
Your friend getting her number is bad, as is starting things over facebook. Go and find her and set something up.I dont know when I will see this girl again and want to know if I should wait it out and try to catch her at another future party or should I add her on facebook and send her some messages? I dont want to get her number from my friend but is adding her to facebook just as bad?
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Think of it logically...
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
WELL YOUR WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY MAYHAVE BEEN CLOSED........so U gotta see if that window is locked, if it isnt, you can reopen it.
HEsitation leads to masturbation......stop allowing opportunities pass you by or outsourcing your seduction tactic. I know movie stars outsource thier pickups by getting their body guards to go get the girl of their choice. I assume you aint that popular yet.
So...........do it for yourself.........no not masturbation, I am talking when U see a chic......start gaming a chic......all by your lonesome.
When U get the chics digits, instant date, or even rejected.......give yourself a high five cause U attempted with no help. U will find that after a few of these.........hmmm around 10-15 cold approaches.........you WILL get a lot better and it will be all too easy.
HEsitation leads to masturbation......stop allowing opportunities pass you by or outsourcing your seduction tactic. I know movie stars outsource thier pickups by getting their body guards to go get the girl of their choice. I assume you aint that popular yet.
So...........do it for yourself.........no not masturbation, I am talking when U see a chic......start gaming a chic......all by your lonesome.
When U get the chics digits, instant date, or even rejected.......give yourself a high five cause U attempted with no help. U will find that after a few of these.........hmmm around 10-15 cold approaches.........you WILL get a lot better and it will be all too easy.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I agree, I should have tried to game her at the party but we were already leaving and she was around all her friends so I didn't know how to approach that since I didnt know her or any of her friends.Kevin Feng said:Think of it logically...
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
We have made contact at her workplace, she introduced herself and thats it. I guess I should wait it out then and take the next opportunity.