So I was leaving a party with a buddy of mine and I noticed a cute girl who I would really like to get to know. I tell my buddy I think that girl is cute and he happens to know her so we leave. Couple of days later my friend talks to her and tells her I think she is cute and we go to her workplace and she introduces herself to me and goes back to her work. I dont know when I will see this girl again and want to know if I should wait it out and try to catch her at another future party or should I add her on facebook and send her some messages? I dont want to get her number from my friend but is adding her to facebook just as bad?
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Usually not a good thing for a friend to do.Err0r said:my friend talks to her and tells her I think she is cute
Your friend getting her number is bad, as is starting things over facebook. Go and find her and set something up.I dont know when I will see this girl again and want to know if I should wait it out and try to catch her at another future party or should I add her on facebook and send her some messages? I dont want to get her number from my friend but is adding her to facebook just as bad?
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Think of it logically...
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
WELL YOUR WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY MAYHAVE BEEN CLOSED........so U gotta see if that window is locked, if it isnt, you can reopen it.
HEsitation leads to masturbation......stop allowing opportunities pass you by or outsourcing your seduction tactic. I know movie stars outsource thier pickups by getting their body guards to go get the girl of their choice. I assume you aint that popular yet.
So...........do it for yourself.........no not masturbation, I am talking when U see a chic......start gaming a chic......all by your lonesome.
When U get the chics digits, instant date, or even rejected.......give yourself a high five cause U attempted with no help. U will find that after a few of these.........hmmm around 10-15 cold approaches.........you WILL get a lot better and it will be all too easy.
HEsitation leads to masturbation......stop allowing opportunities pass you by or outsourcing your seduction tactic. I know movie stars outsource thier pickups by getting their body guards to go get the girl of their choice. I assume you aint that popular yet.
So...........do it for yourself.........no not masturbation, I am talking when U see a chic......start gaming a chic......all by your lonesome.
When U get the chics digits, instant date, or even rejected.......give yourself a high five cause U attempted with no help. U will find that after a few of these.........hmmm around 10-15 cold approaches.........you WILL get a lot better and it will be all too easy.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I agree, I should have tried to game her at the party but we were already leaving and she was around all her friends so I didn't know how to approach that since I didnt know her or any of her friends.Kevin Feng said:Think of it logically...
Ideally speaking you should have approached her at the party, but you decided not to, let's just attach hypothetical numbers here.
If you talked to her at the party and had a great conversation with her, chances are you would have had say.... a 50% chance of scoring a date with her.
Here's the thing, now you haven't made any contact with her at all whatsoever and she has no clue as to who you are. So if you contact her via facebook or something, she'll be more likely to be sketched out.
Here's the best play, if you don't think you'll ever see her again, try and message her via facebook because you'll miss 100% of shots you never take. If you think you'll see her again, I say hold off and try to strike up conversation in person.
-Kevin
We have made contact at her workplace, she introduced herself and thats it. I guess I should wait it out then and take the next opportunity.