Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I like that....althought that one takes major confidence.... Anybody else??irocknike23 said:just say do you have to be delicious to work here:yes:
i actually do that tomovistar said:So i approached the waitress, just asked her her name and where she was from, but it went smooth and comfortable... she told me she had a boyfriend but that she was very flattered.
I want to have the attitude that if I see a chick I want I approach without fear, every single time. no hesitation.
I have been hanging out with a guy who has no fear with approaching women...
I put him to the test too. I'll admit there are some women I see that I feel would just not be interested in me(wrong mindset i know)
We go to this club one night and I saw him approach the hottest chicks in the bar without fear, he was rejected at times but most of the time it went pretty smoothly.
His looks are very average, he dresses nicely, has a bit of a gut, but loads of confidence.
I think 90% of this is just opening your mouth...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Try this:movistar said:I'm in a restaurant and there is a waitress I want approach..... What's a good opener for this situation??