"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm going to be working in a semi-casual office environment this summer with a minor league baseball team. The dress code is going to be a provided polo shirt, and I have to wear khakis and "casual shoes or clean sneakers."

What kind of sneakers should I be targeting here? I want something that isn't super fancy, but still matches the beige khakis and polo shirts (which I think are either going to be red or blue). Obviously I'm looking for something stylish but also comfortable since I'll be walking around baseball stadiums and up and down stairs pretty often.

Also, I'm hoping to stay under $50. Tips?

Thanks
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Marvin Gaye

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Negative thoughts down the drain just relax, let t

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Alle_Gory said:
All the dude needs is a wig and a pair of tits and he's a full woman.

Talking about coordinating your various shoes and outfits.
Heh, I'm pretty into style and clothing. If that makes me a woman in your eyes, so be it.

I don't know this dude, or about his other videos, but that video provides a decent tip. I can't stand when people go out and get some nice new, stylish shoes, and they have on some busted up jeans or shirts.

OP, I'll look around for some other shoe options, but can't go wrong with CT.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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with your pants you can wear
brown shoes/sneakers white shoes/sneakers
definitely avoid the black
 

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I've always been a fan of white K Swiss and Lugz shoes for a casual look, as long as they aren't a model that's too bulky or busy. Try some with red or blue accents for matching or contrast with your polos.
 

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Thanks - I really like those Chuck Taylors with the red/blue accents. Also, I'm a huge fan of white K Swiss shoes, but always have trouble keeping them looking really good.

I guess I didn't realize that you could definitely wear white shoes with khaki pants - always thought you had to go brown or some other darker color.
 

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JCballin88 said:
Thanks - I really like those Chuck Taylors with the red/blue accents. Also, I'm a huge fan of white K Swiss shoes, but always have trouble keeping them looking really good.

I guess I didn't realize that you could definitely wear white shoes with khaki pants - always thought you had to go brown or some other darker color.
If the khakis are a slimmer fit, white shoes can look really good. I used to be a huge K Swiss fan, but I started getting the feeling they were too "bulky" and made me look odd. Ever since I got more into style, I have yet to find a pair of K Swiss that I like. But, that's just me.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Can't go wrong with Clarks and khakis. Find a cheap khaki or tan cotton blazer and leave it hanging in a zipper bag in your car in case you're gonna have a big meeting upstairs some day.

Good luck dude.
 
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