"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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NC'd Oneitis wants to catch up? Whats do I do?

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As you guys know, I NC'd my oneitis (HB 9.5) as she screwed me up pretty badly. During this time she has always been the one to contact me with inviting me out to parties and gatherings etc etc. I've declined as she stood me up once and never got back to me about a date (in my AFC days).

Now that she's back from an overseas trip, she wants to 'catchup'. I kept it short and told her I'd get back to her which is not true. Deep down I don't even want to see her again because I'm happily getting on with my life. Yet there is always that tiny inkling of me who wants to. Not to mention if I did leave this, when I do see her at future events (we're part of same friendship circle as she was literally my best friend), she will bring it up and I'm sure an awkward situation will arise (because I will speak my mind - I don't hold back or refrain from saying things no more).

So how do I go about this? To be honest I don't even care about her anymore but a part of me still wants to see her. Even a part of me thinks I still have a chance with her now but I feel that's just the old AFC in me speaking out. I'm more interested in the current girls I'm spinning.

Cheers guys
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She's out of your life for a reason.

Stick to your guns and just ignore her. If you really wanted her in your life you wouldn't have booted her out of it.
 
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... Your right guys. Can't believe I even let the thought cross my mind. What was the point of this post!?!?

Cheers guys.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Thanks HalfAddict still can't believe the thought crossed my mind haha.

Ok, to make use of this, I'm gonna highjack my own thread.

Situation:
A friend (female), knows about how I hate the nice guy persona that I have and how I was going on about changing it. She doesn't know about sosuave but basically everything else about me (we are close). At first she did everything she could to stop me from changing but eventually gave in and accepted.

We're still really close and flirt and kino and everything but our relationship feels different now. She's stopped sending all the emoticons she use to in conversation and when she is around me, she isn't that bubbly girly girl she normally was.

So this happen to anyone else? I mean like your friends acting differently to the 'new' you?
 
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