So this is an interesting observation I've made throughout my years of dating: I've gotten laid way more times when I was able to do something that made me stand out. For example, when I played soccer, I got a lot of attention from females as I was pretty good. As soon as I stopped playing, the attention reduced. Quite a bit. And I'm not an ugly dude. Does this mean women's natural attraction dropped for me? I wouldn't say so. I just became another decent looking guy who blends in with the rest. So my suggestion for you is find something that separates you from everyone else. Whether it's playing guitar, playing a sport, leading a prayer group. Anything really, where you can show you're DIFFERENT.