Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
very smart, i did not even think they were playing for 50kAgent Zero said:Are these guys even trying to win the game? There's 50 large at stake here so I don't know why you wouldn't pick the idiots like Pradeep and Scott to be your wingmen. Kosmo was stupid to keep around some of the best players.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
i never thought about that...ya if he really wanted to win, thatd be the smart thing to do...i guess theyre all jus really tight and their real goal is self improvement.....which is good but i mean, thats alotta cash hahaAgent Zero said:Are these guys even trying to win the game? There's 50 large at stake here so I don't know why you wouldn't pick the idiots like Pradeep and Scott to be your wingmen. Kosmo was stupid to keep around some of the best players.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
From what I've seen so far women know about the show and think it's a joke. The majority have been ragging on the pick up lines. FYI to you guys, do not use the "dental floss" line, women are hip to it.STR8UP said:So you're basically saying that just because of a tv show women are going to learn to think logically and begin to realize that they are actually being.....hit on?
I wouldn't worry too much if I were you.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
No sh*t. You're taking my post out of context. I was trying to say that women might think guys are trying to follow a system and trying to be something their not; putting on an act to get a woman, trying too hard = LAME in their eyes. I was also trying to say the DJ and PUA techniques will no longer be original if everyone starts using them. Therefore it won't have the same value as it once did.squirrels said:Jesus...pathetic. "OMG...what if women find out that I'm actually ATTRACTED to them and *gasp* want to SLEEP with them?! Whatever will I do when my impure and nefarious aims are exposed??"
Be a man. You're SUPPOSED to like women. You're SUPPOSED to want to get in their pants. There's no shame in learning how to do that. It's only an utter tool who's too afraid of admitting that he isn't good at something to take the steps to get better at it.
Worried about trading on Mystery's system? Then get out there in "the field", talk to women, and develop your own.
Str8up, you don't think women know when they're being hit on? Women can smell a guy who's trying to hit on them a mile away. They may not be logical, but they sure know what's up when a guy wants to f*ck them.STR8UP said:So you're basically saying that just because of a tv show women are going to learn to think logically and begin to realize that they are actually being.....hit on?
I wouldn't worry too much if I were you.
Of course they do, that was sarcasmedger said:Str8up, you don't think women know when they're being hit on? Women can smell a guy who's trying to hit on them a mile away. They may not be logical, but they sure know what's up when a guy wants to f*ck them.
Anyway, read my response to Squirrels, that's what this thread was about.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.