Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
very smart, i did not even think they were playing for 50kAgent Zero said:Are these guys even trying to win the game? There's 50 large at stake here so I don't know why you wouldn't pick the idiots like Pradeep and Scott to be your wingmen. Kosmo was stupid to keep around some of the best players.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i never thought about that...ya if he really wanted to win, thatd be the smart thing to do...i guess theyre all jus really tight and their real goal is self improvement.....which is good but i mean, thats alotta cash hahaAgent Zero said:Are these guys even trying to win the game? There's 50 large at stake here so I don't know why you wouldn't pick the idiots like Pradeep and Scott to be your wingmen. Kosmo was stupid to keep around some of the best players.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
From what I've seen so far women know about the show and think it's a joke. The majority have been ragging on the pick up lines. FYI to you guys, do not use the "dental floss" line, women are hip to it.STR8UP said:So you're basically saying that just because of a tv show women are going to learn to think logically and begin to realize that they are actually being.....hit on?
I wouldn't worry too much if I were you.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
No sh*t. You're taking my post out of context. I was trying to say that women might think guys are trying to follow a system and trying to be something their not; putting on an act to get a woman, trying too hard = LAME in their eyes. I was also trying to say the DJ and PUA techniques will no longer be original if everyone starts using them. Therefore it won't have the same value as it once did.squirrels said:Jesus...pathetic. "OMG...what if women find out that I'm actually ATTRACTED to them and *gasp* want to SLEEP with them?! Whatever will I do when my impure and nefarious aims are exposed??"
Be a man. You're SUPPOSED to like women. You're SUPPOSED to want to get in their pants. There's no shame in learning how to do that. It's only an utter tool who's too afraid of admitting that he isn't good at something to take the steps to get better at it.
Worried about trading on Mystery's system? Then get out there in "the field", talk to women, and develop your own.
Str8up, you don't think women know when they're being hit on? Women can smell a guy who's trying to hit on them a mile away. They may not be logical, but they sure know what's up when a guy wants to f*ck them.STR8UP said:So you're basically saying that just because of a tv show women are going to learn to think logically and begin to realize that they are actually being.....hit on?
I wouldn't worry too much if I were you.
Of course they do, that was sarcasmedger said:Str8up, you don't think women know when they're being hit on? Women can smell a guy who's trying to hit on them a mile away. They may not be logical, but they sure know what's up when a guy wants to f*ck them.
Anyway, read my response to Squirrels, that's what this thread was about.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.