She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
very smart, i did not even think they were playing for 50kAgent Zero said:Are these guys even trying to win the game? There's 50 large at stake here so I don't know why you wouldn't pick the idiots like Pradeep and Scott to be your wingmen. Kosmo was stupid to keep around some of the best players.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
i never thought about that...ya if he really wanted to win, thatd be the smart thing to do...i guess theyre all jus really tight and their real goal is self improvement.....which is good but i mean, thats alotta cash hahaAgent Zero said:Are these guys even trying to win the game? There's 50 large at stake here so I don't know why you wouldn't pick the idiots like Pradeep and Scott to be your wingmen. Kosmo was stupid to keep around some of the best players.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
From what I've seen so far women know about the show and think it's a joke. The majority have been ragging on the pick up lines. FYI to you guys, do not use the "dental floss" line, women are hip to it.STR8UP said:So you're basically saying that just because of a tv show women are going to learn to think logically and begin to realize that they are actually being.....hit on?
I wouldn't worry too much if I were you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No sh*t. You're taking my post out of context. I was trying to say that women might think guys are trying to follow a system and trying to be something their not; putting on an act to get a woman, trying too hard = LAME in their eyes. I was also trying to say the DJ and PUA techniques will no longer be original if everyone starts using them. Therefore it won't have the same value as it once did.squirrels said:Jesus...pathetic. "OMG...what if women find out that I'm actually ATTRACTED to them and *gasp* want to SLEEP with them?! Whatever will I do when my impure and nefarious aims are exposed??"
Be a man. You're SUPPOSED to like women. You're SUPPOSED to want to get in their pants. There's no shame in learning how to do that. It's only an utter tool who's too afraid of admitting that he isn't good at something to take the steps to get better at it.
Worried about trading on Mystery's system? Then get out there in "the field", talk to women, and develop your own.
Str8up, you don't think women know when they're being hit on? Women can smell a guy who's trying to hit on them a mile away. They may not be logical, but they sure know what's up when a guy wants to f*ck them.STR8UP said:So you're basically saying that just because of a tv show women are going to learn to think logically and begin to realize that they are actually being.....hit on?
I wouldn't worry too much if I were you.
Of course they do, that was sarcasmedger said:Str8up, you don't think women know when they're being hit on? Women can smell a guy who's trying to hit on them a mile away. They may not be logical, but they sure know what's up when a guy wants to f*ck them.
Anyway, read my response to Squirrels, that's what this thread was about.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.