"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
mystery method - solid start or will it ruin me?
- Thread starter csrpj
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
A Don Juan will train you to better yourself, to gain actual goals that you care about, to become a real man, and to change your life for the best. That is the cake. Women are the icing on that cake. And, best of all, the women will see how bada$$ you are and you'll naturally attract women of all kinds. Then, not only will you be getting the sex, but you'll actually enjoy your life by having real meaning.
tl;dr: PUA's are boy-man pansies who get nasty girls from bars. D.J's are men who focus on bettering themselves and, in turn, can acquire actual women worth having. Always remember: anything worth having never comes easy.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
But try and have the calibration to see that most 'community' guys are extremely nerdy. You want to be doing mystery method, AND becoming a cooler person. Most guys come in to the community and just become creepy, and annoying.
Try studying juggler method, and mystery method, blend them two.
In spite of what others have said, you don't have to be Mystery to use his game. You shouldn't try to emulate any person while you are trying to apply their methods, anymore than you have to buy a wheelchair if you wanted to learn Physics or cut off an ear to learn painting.
Nothing will ruin you if you maintain the following outlook:
"Give everything a fair shot. Use what works, discard the rest".
Accension
Senior Don Juan
All you have to do is be happy without women, which is honestly easier said than done, but it's the point the entire community is leaning on right now.
I recommend you pirate RSD's The Blue Print (audio only) and wake up to 'your higher power' and all that mumbo-jumbo that seems to help.
SandHawk
Master Don Juan
Being a DJ comes down to improve your personal skillset in life. You work on yourself, improve your life in general, and not just when you're your avatar. This requires more effort, but in the long run, it will yield much better result. I pull girls based on who I am, even when I'm having a sh*t day, instead of with MM, where you pull nothing when you're having a sh*t day because your avatar isn't as good as usual.
Read some of the MM material, esp. the stuff on body language and kino is good, but learn to sieve through the bullsh*t material.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Personally, I'm a big fan of the Gunwitch method. It has worked for me and I have seen it work for other people as well. It's much simpler and focuses on achieving the right mental state. Once you have accomplished that, the rest just flows naturally.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Huffman
Master Don Juan
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"I was into you from the moment I saw you. I was fascinated and hoped to get together with you. But it turns out you're very different from what I thought. Don't take it personal, but you are not what I imagined."
It was the devastating truth. It was more truth than I could take back then, but some time later I understood.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
With Mystery Method i remained a chode at core. Even though when i went out to the clubs, prepared with scripts to sarge, i would have success, during the day, i would be the same chode that i ever was.
But RSD is a different thing. They try to get you to internalize their teachings. They try to make you BECOME a man of success not do the tricks of a successful man. Its almost no-method. They mostly teach you inner game. They lead to you to a path which helps you become good in general social interactions.
Take this advice from a guy that tried all the schools.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
RSD fits perfectly with sosuaveDaddy The Pimp said:
so does doc love