"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mystery method - solid start or will it ruin me?
- Thread starter csrpj
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A Don Juan will train you to better yourself, to gain actual goals that you care about, to become a real man, and to change your life for the best. That is the cake. Women are the icing on that cake. And, best of all, the women will see how bada$$ you are and you'll naturally attract women of all kinds. Then, not only will you be getting the sex, but you'll actually enjoy your life by having real meaning.
tl;dr: PUA's are boy-man pansies who get nasty girls from bars. D.J's are men who focus on bettering themselves and, in turn, can acquire actual women worth having. Always remember: anything worth having never comes easy.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
But try and have the calibration to see that most 'community' guys are extremely nerdy. You want to be doing mystery method, AND becoming a cooler person. Most guys come in to the community and just become creepy, and annoying.
Try studying juggler method, and mystery method, blend them two.
In spite of what others have said, you don't have to be Mystery to use his game. You shouldn't try to emulate any person while you are trying to apply their methods, anymore than you have to buy a wheelchair if you wanted to learn Physics or cut off an ear to learn painting.
Nothing will ruin you if you maintain the following outlook:
"Give everything a fair shot. Use what works, discard the rest".
Accension
Senior Don Juan
All you have to do is be happy without women, which is honestly easier said than done, but it's the point the entire community is leaning on right now.
I recommend you pirate RSD's The Blue Print (audio only) and wake up to 'your higher power' and all that mumbo-jumbo that seems to help.
SandHawk
Master Don Juan
Being a DJ comes down to improve your personal skillset in life. You work on yourself, improve your life in general, and not just when you're your avatar. This requires more effort, but in the long run, it will yield much better result. I pull girls based on who I am, even when I'm having a sh*t day, instead of with MM, where you pull nothing when you're having a sh*t day because your avatar isn't as good as usual.
Read some of the MM material, esp. the stuff on body language and kino is good, but learn to sieve through the bullsh*t material.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Personally, I'm a big fan of the Gunwitch method. It has worked for me and I have seen it work for other people as well. It's much simpler and focuses on achieving the right mental state. Once you have accomplished that, the rest just flows naturally.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Huffman
Master Don Juan
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"I was into you from the moment I saw you. I was fascinated and hoped to get together with you. But it turns out you're very different from what I thought. Don't take it personal, but you are not what I imagined."
It was the devastating truth. It was more truth than I could take back then, but some time later I understood.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
With Mystery Method i remained a chode at core. Even though when i went out to the clubs, prepared with scripts to sarge, i would have success, during the day, i would be the same chode that i ever was.
But RSD is a different thing. They try to get you to internalize their teachings. They try to make you BECOME a man of success not do the tricks of a successful man. Its almost no-method. They mostly teach you inner game. They lead to you to a path which helps you become good in general social interactions.
Take this advice from a guy that tried all the schools.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
RSD fits perfectly with sosuaveDaddy The Pimp said:
so does doc love