"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mystery method - solid start or will it ruin me?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
A Don Juan will train you to better yourself, to gain actual goals that you care about, to become a real man, and to change your life for the best. That is the cake. Women are the icing on that cake. And, best of all, the women will see how bada$$ you are and you'll naturally attract women of all kinds. Then, not only will you be getting the sex, but you'll actually enjoy your life by having real meaning.
tl;dr: PUA's are boy-man pansies who get nasty girls from bars. D.J's are men who focus on bettering themselves and, in turn, can acquire actual women worth having. Always remember: anything worth having never comes easy.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
But try and have the calibration to see that most 'community' guys are extremely nerdy. You want to be doing mystery method, AND becoming a cooler person. Most guys come in to the community and just become creepy, and annoying.
Try studying juggler method, and mystery method, blend them two.
In spite of what others have said, you don't have to be Mystery to use his game. You shouldn't try to emulate any person while you are trying to apply their methods, anymore than you have to buy a wheelchair if you wanted to learn Physics or cut off an ear to learn painting.
Nothing will ruin you if you maintain the following outlook:
"Give everything a fair shot. Use what works, discard the rest".
Accension
Senior Don Juan
All you have to do is be happy without women, which is honestly easier said than done, but it's the point the entire community is leaning on right now.
I recommend you pirate RSD's The Blue Print (audio only) and wake up to 'your higher power' and all that mumbo-jumbo that seems to help.
SandHawk
Master Don Juan
Being a DJ comes down to improve your personal skillset in life. You work on yourself, improve your life in general, and not just when you're your avatar. This requires more effort, but in the long run, it will yield much better result. I pull girls based on who I am, even when I'm having a sh*t day, instead of with MM, where you pull nothing when you're having a sh*t day because your avatar isn't as good as usual.
Read some of the MM material, esp. the stuff on body language and kino is good, but learn to sieve through the bullsh*t material.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Personally, I'm a big fan of the Gunwitch method. It has worked for me and I have seen it work for other people as well. It's much simpler and focuses on achieving the right mental state. Once you have accomplished that, the rest just flows naturally.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Huffman
Master Don Juan
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"I was into you from the moment I saw you. I was fascinated and hoped to get together with you. But it turns out you're very different from what I thought. Don't take it personal, but you are not what I imagined."
It was the devastating truth. It was more truth than I could take back then, but some time later I understood.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
With Mystery Method i remained a chode at core. Even though when i went out to the clubs, prepared with scripts to sarge, i would have success, during the day, i would be the same chode that i ever was.
But RSD is a different thing. They try to get you to internalize their teachings. They try to make you BECOME a man of success not do the tricks of a successful man. Its almost no-method. They mostly teach you inner game. They lead to you to a path which helps you become good in general social interactions.
Take this advice from a guy that tried all the schools.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
RSD fits perfectly with sosuaveDaddy The Pimp said:
so does doc love