She means ending this relationship, then finding it elsewhere. She was trying to explain how important getting her needs met are. Compromise she calls it. I agree...being ambivalent I don't compromise. That makes it even worse since she feels the need to do all the compromising.
Ummm HELLO.
Did you read what you posted?
Getting HER needs meet is compromise?
You see, she putting what she needs above everything else - and it will get worse - because you've probably caved time and time again.
If you don't get out, you will get more and more ambivalent - and resentfull. That's not a relationship. That's not something you want to base the rest of your life on. is it?
Your needs - your inner need - is to get out there and meet and fvck other women. At least to experience the "Field" before you settle down.
Listen - imagine 10 yrs time - your sitting there talking to your Son about the world and life. He asks you questions about women - about some situation he may have gotten himself into - what are you going to do? because you surely will not relate to him. You will not have had any experience with the things he's going through. Are you going to tell him:-
"Son, to be honest, I don't know. I just settled for your mother even though she was the first woman - and I always wanted to experience others but never did"....
What would you tell YOUR son? to get married or to get the hell out?
Let me tell you - my ex was a taker. Selfish and took, took, took. She was hot - yeah that's for sure - and that blinded me for a long time - but at the end of the day I was unhappy. But I stayed because she was fvcking hot. Not matter what I did, it was never enough. Everything turned into her way. She would want my help in moving some box's to the roof of the garage - that would turn into me re-organzing the whoel fvcking garage. She wanted to paint the bedroom wall - that would turn into us remodelling the whole fvcking bedroom - get the picture?
I was unhappy. But I stayed - because I thought - I am ever going to feel this way about another woman? am I ever going to be with someone as hot as her.
But I resisted every step of the way.
Well she's my ex and I've moved on.
Now - I'm with someone who is so opposite. She gives not takes. She recently moved to a new apartment - and didn't want me to help her move because she didn't think I should. She didn't want to put me out - especially since I had worked that day. Fvck - of course I helped.
Anyway, the point I'm trying to make is, that no matter what you feel now - there will always be someone else out there for you. Someone who maybe better matched to you. and here is the key...
Unless you get the fvck out of something your unhappy with - YOU WILL NEVER KNOW - and will sit there wondering until the day you die. Don't die wondering. That's got to be the worset way to go.
