"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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My sticking point

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Ok, so I messaged the girl from my last thread http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=216718

Me (yesterday): hi, how was your hangover, did it last until Monday like mine did? :D :D if you have time tommorow, we can go and grab a glass of wine or two :)

Her (today): hi, the hangover was hard, fortunately I cured it with more alcohol the next day :) I don't have time today, I already said I would go wall climbing

And here goes my sticking point again. I suck at getting girls out after they refuse the first invitation, although it sometimes isn't an excuse (well... at least I guess that it's an excuse only sometimes).

I literally do not know what to do now. How to get her out without coming across as too eager?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If she can meet up and she knows you want to because you just offered to, she will make it happen unless she doesn't want to.
 

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What do you usually respond with?
 

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I usually wait for a day or two and ask her out again (usually doesn't work). I know I always come across as needy then, but that's the best I can do right now in this situation (except for not responding at all or playing I don't care, which is better for my ego, but doesn't get me the date anyways).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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AttackFormation

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iryst said:
(not responding at all or playing it cool, which is better).
There you go.
 

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Well princess, you can't always get what you want in the moment.
 

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Wait a week and try again. If she doesn't accept then delete her number and forget her.
 
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