"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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My sticking point

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Ok, so I messaged the girl from my last thread http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=216718

Me (yesterday): hi, how was your hangover, did it last until Monday like mine did? :D :D if you have time tommorow, we can go and grab a glass of wine or two :)

Her (today): hi, the hangover was hard, fortunately I cured it with more alcohol the next day :) I don't have time today, I already said I would go wall climbing

And here goes my sticking point again. I suck at getting girls out after they refuse the first invitation, although it sometimes isn't an excuse (well... at least I guess that it's an excuse only sometimes).

I literally do not know what to do now. How to get her out without coming across as too eager?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If she can meet up and she knows you want to because you just offered to, she will make it happen unless she doesn't want to.
 

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What do you usually respond with?
 

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I usually wait for a day or two and ask her out again (usually doesn't work). I know I always come across as needy then, but that's the best I can do right now in this situation (except for not responding at all or playing I don't care, which is better for my ego, but doesn't get me the date anyways).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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iryst said:
(not responding at all or playing it cool, which is better).
There you go.
 

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Well princess, you can't always get what you want in the moment.
 

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Wait a week and try again. If she doesn't accept then delete her number and forget her.
 
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