"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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My sticking point

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Ok, so I messaged the girl from my last thread http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=216718

Me (yesterday): hi, how was your hangover, did it last until Monday like mine did? :D :D if you have time tommorow, we can go and grab a glass of wine or two :)

Her (today): hi, the hangover was hard, fortunately I cured it with more alcohol the next day :) I don't have time today, I already said I would go wall climbing

And here goes my sticking point again. I suck at getting girls out after they refuse the first invitation, although it sometimes isn't an excuse (well... at least I guess that it's an excuse only sometimes).

I literally do not know what to do now. How to get her out without coming across as too eager?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If she can meet up and she knows you want to because you just offered to, she will make it happen unless she doesn't want to.
 
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What do you usually respond with?
 
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I usually wait for a day or two and ask her out again (usually doesn't work). I know I always come across as needy then, but that's the best I can do right now in this situation (except for not responding at all or playing I don't care, which is better for my ego, but doesn't get me the date anyways).
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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iryst said:
(not responding at all or playing it cool, which is better).
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There you go.
 
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Well princess, you can't always get what you want in the moment.
 
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Wait a week and try again. If she doesn't accept then delete her number and forget her.
 
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