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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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My partner doesnt sleep well in bed, especially with me

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So my partner doesn't sleep well, in bed, especially with me in it.

She has sleep on the couch way more than with me in it.

She says: when we in bed together, you give me soo much energy!

Also, the bed wasn't to her comfort and we moved into a new apartment 4months ago.

She work shift, I work standard week times.

She put a headcap on her eyes to cover the light, there are some noise coming in from the street or building.

In my case, no sleeping issues but I like to be alone on my side too :p.

The restlessness seems mutual in bed where I fall asleep, she switch.

It's driving her nuts and exhaustion.

Any advice?
Advices to improve sleep quality?
Hints/tips/reasons?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So my partner doesn't sleep well, in bed, especially with me in it.

She has sleep on the couch way more than with me in it.

She says: when we in bed together, you give me soo much energy!

Also, the bed wasn't to her comfort and we moved into a new apartment 4months ago.

She work shift, I work standard week times.

She put a headcap on her eyes to cover the light, there are some noise coming in from the street or building.

In my case, no sleeping issues but I like to be alone on my side too :p.

The restlessness seems mutual in bed where I fall asleep, she switch.

It's driving her nuts and exhaustion.

Any advice?
Advices to improve sleep quality?
Hints/tips/reasons?
Look up a magnesium supplement or a melatonin supplement and take an hour before bed. That should do the trick.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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She says: when we in bed together, you give me soo much energy!
Shes an introvert. She needs "downtime". You need to figure it out... treat her like a cat
 

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Shes an introvert. She needs "downtime". You need to figure it out... treat her like a cat
it means OP is annoying lol i am introvert or so everyone thinks but i know a lot of people who dont drain energy from me.


you better get urself checked OP
 

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Either sleep in separate beds or get a bigger one.
 
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