Most of you guys know how much I love this forum.Saved me from alot of heart ache in school.Made me want to join the military although I couldnt get in do to my eyesight .Mom passes and feeling depressed but she was a major force in my life very influential in me keeping an open mind on things.!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
My mother passed!!
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Pierce Manhammer
Moderator
My deepest condolences.
Thank you sir whatever issues I had with her were resolved years ago.i appreciate it.
Redwood
Senior Don Juan
RIP, my condolences.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
EyeBRollin
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Sorry for your loss OP.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Eli,
Yeah you must be chewing on lifes gristle right now....You only have one Mum its a real kick in the guts when they go....My Old Mum was married in 1940 After Dads ship came back from the Campaign in Norway,from there to mid 1946 she saw him maybe a total of a few months as he was at Sea,The Mediterranean,Russia,the Atlantic then the Pacific,he was sunk three times,twice in one Day LOL...She used carry me in a suitcase to shelter from the German Bombs in the underground Railway where she slept...Bonds like that when broken leave a big hole...Just remember the good times Eli,Commisserations.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Theoneaboveall
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Sorry for your loss.
RickTheToad
Moderator
I am sorry for your loss.
Travel memoir21
Master Don Juan
my condolences
My condolences brother. Chin up and be the change you and she would want you to be.
Make sure when you do see her again, that you know she will be proud of you. Make that a driving force to progress on.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
How old are you sir?
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Eli,
As it says on my side Bar 80,a 1944 job,a good year for Wine and a bad year for the Waffen SS.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.