Most of you guys know how much I love this forum.Saved me from alot of heart ache in school.Made me want to join the military although I couldnt get in do to my eyesight .Mom passes and feeling depressed but she was a major force in my life very influential in me keeping an open mind on things.!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
My mother passed!!
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Pierce Manhammer
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My deepest condolences.
Thank you sir whatever issues I had with her were resolved years ago.i appreciate it.
Redwood
Senior Don Juan
RIP, my condolences.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
EyeBRollin
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Sorry for your loss OP.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Eli,
Yeah you must be chewing on lifes gristle right now....You only have one Mum its a real kick in the guts when they go....My Old Mum was married in 1940 After Dads ship came back from the Campaign in Norway,from there to mid 1946 she saw him maybe a total of a few months as he was at Sea,The Mediterranean,Russia,the Atlantic then the Pacific,he was sunk three times,twice in one Day LOL...She used carry me in a suitcase to shelter from the German Bombs in the underground Railway where she slept...Bonds like that when broken leave a big hole...Just remember the good times Eli,Commisserations.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Theoneaboveall
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Sorry for your loss.
RickTheToad
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I am sorry for your loss.
Travel memoir21
Master Don Juan
my condolences
My condolences brother. Chin up and be the change you and she would want you to be.
Make sure when you do see her again, that you know she will be proud of you. Make that a driving force to progress on.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How old are you sir?
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Eli,
As it says on my side Bar 80,a 1944 job,a good year for Wine and a bad year for the Waffen SS.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.