Most of you guys know how much I love this forum.Saved me from alot of heart ache in school.Made me want to join the military although I couldnt get in do to my eyesight .Mom passes and feeling depressed but she was a major force in my life very influential in me keeping an open mind on things.!
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
My mother passed!!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Pierce Manhammer
Moderator
My deepest condolences.
Thank you sir whatever issues I had with her were resolved years ago.i appreciate it.
Redwood
Senior Don Juan
RIP, my condolences.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
EyeBRollin
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Sorry for your loss OP.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Eli,
Yeah you must be chewing on lifes gristle right now....You only have one Mum its a real kick in the guts when they go....My Old Mum was married in 1940 After Dads ship came back from the Campaign in Norway,from there to mid 1946 she saw him maybe a total of a few months as he was at Sea,The Mediterranean,Russia,the Atlantic then the Pacific,he was sunk three times,twice in one Day LOL...She used carry me in a suitcase to shelter from the German Bombs in the underground Railway where she slept...Bonds like that when broken leave a big hole...Just remember the good times Eli,Commisserations.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Theoneaboveall
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Sorry for your loss.
RickTheToad
Moderator
I am sorry for your loss.
Travel memoir21
Master Don Juan
my condolences
My condolences brother. Chin up and be the change you and she would want you to be.
Make sure when you do see her again, that you know she will be proud of you. Make that a driving force to progress on.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How old are you sir?
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Hi Eli,
As it says on my side Bar 80,a 1944 job,a good year for Wine and a bad year for the Waffen SS.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.